I saw this question posted a few days ago on wb and it’s a good one.
For me, the answer has so many levels. Of course, LOVE being the biggest reason – but really, why do people get married? To prove that they’re committed to something bigger than themselves? For financial stability? I mean, they’re all factors, but personally, it is an interesting idea to ponder.
I remember watching The Wedding Singer many times and just sobbing my brains out when the scene where Robbie sees Julia in the window and she’s glowing, smiling from ear to ear in her wedding dress as she ‘announces herself’ in the mirror as ‘Mrs. Robbie Hart” – unbeknowst to Robbie, who had been planning to declare his feelings toward her. Heart-wrenching movie moment right there…of course, the end of the film really ties it together, but you know…
I know that’s a weird way to frame it, but I knew that DH* was the one early on because he made me feel that way – just completely content. That no matter what the situation was, he would make me happy. We balanced each other out from the start – we were, and are, opposite in many ways, but in ways that complement, rather than contrast. Fate had to have something to do with it – I wonder if there was any other way that we could have possibly met other than the way that we did, but that’s something we will never really know =)
Realistically, I know, things are not always rainbows and butterflies, but that’s where the second part comes in – communication. There are things that irk me about DH, and I know there are things that just annoy the bejesus out of him about me, but we can tell each other those things. I, like most women, am chock-full of estrogen, and there are times where I get so frustrated, and annoyed, plus generally whiny, but at the end of my inner-tantrum, I can reflect. I think I have gotten a lot better at this because I finally have someone I can speak freely to. I still have a ways to go, but having a built-in support has done a lot for me in a positive way.
Lastly, being married has made me put things in a better perspective. Before, I was a lot more stressed. I worried about work, about friendships and relationships, and if I was doing and saying the right things to everything and everyone…but being married has made me more calm in many ways. I love being part of a team and doing the little things to make a day brighter – not because I have to, but because I want to.
Now, some might argue that this list is not mutually exclusive to the thoughts of why people get married in particular (it could be reasons for being in a committed relationship, et al) but it is what it is for me. We found each other and are finding more reasons that support our marriage everyday and that’s the biggest reward of it all.
What are/were/would be your reasons for getting married?