Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the fine line between realism and optimism. I mean, I believe that I am an inherently positive person, but where do we have to surrender to the fact that real life isn’t always magical and fair and fairytale-ish, and when are you just being sour grapes about life because you have a complaint or negative stress?
I see my blog as a place where I talk about the things I like and the thoughts, encouragement and ideas I want to share with friends, family and readers (who often become friends). While it is true that a web page, comprised of words, images and other media can never totally represent a person’s heart, personality and REALNESS (to steal a quote from my friend Linzie) I’d like to think that mine really does. I’m a person, I am not perfect, I have good days and bad days, complex emotions and sometimes episodes of silliness (okay, lots of those) but in the end, it is all me. If/when you meet me, I think you’ll find exactly what you think.
So, what’s with all the words and ponderings today? Well, here it is: I have simple goals in life and one is to be happy.
Right now, there are things that make me happy:
- Talking/blogging/tweeting about any of the above things
And there are things that do not make me happy:
- My job.
- The town I live in.
- The way that the two items above affect my attitude.
- The lack of control I have over these things.
I am SO thankful to have people in my life that I can share this with and not feel guilty about it (because, yes, I realize it is silly to be stressed about things that are seemingly change-able in life when others have it “much worse off” – but that doesn’t change my negative feelings about it).
Do you ever feel like a broken record? Or that your stresses are stressing someone else out? I know the feeling. And I might be stressing someone else out right now by stating this, but it is okay. Unless we’ve LEGITIMATELY walked in someone else’s shoes, we will NEVER (repeat NEVER) fully understand what it’s like to be someone other than ourselves. NO JUDGEMENT. Feelings, emotions and worries are all part of each of us. It’s okay.
It’s okay to be unhappy. There is NOTHING wrong with you.
But – if you are unhappy, what are you doing to change that? That’s where it gets sticky – but it doesn’t have to be. Say it out loud, what are you doing in your life TODAY to make it better than yesterday? Work hard at tasks that will change where you are? Look for those small happy ‘pockets’ of your day? Take a step back and think about what you would do, if time, circumstances or money were out of the picture – to make your life the happiest – then think: how bad do you want it?
Life is too short to be unhappy, but life is also real. What is your happy? And how will you make that your reality?